Recently, I have been overwhelmed by the many untruths I've been spoon fed by people. A couple weeks ago, while having a dispute with a staff member she openly accused me of sleeping on my job. This enraged me, I lost it. Never, I mean NEVER have I ever done such a thing. I've wanted to, believe me, night shifts can be long.

 

How do you defend yourself when something is said like that?

I overreacted to her accusation.

Did this make me look guilty?

 

We all tell little fibs.

Your best friend gets a new hair cut and it looks like a monkey's azz, but in order to remain friends, and not to hurt her feelings you tell her, with excitement, how great it looks.

I want to know why.

Why do people feel the need to spew untruths at someone else's expense?

 

It boils down to the shifting sands of the self and trying to look good both to ourselves and others, experts say.

Not all lies are harmful.

In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice. Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, can be classified as less than serious. But bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy—the glue of society.

Men lie no more than women, but they tend to lie to make themselves look better, while women are more likely to lie to make the other person feel better.

"The truth is rarely pure and never simple."

-Oscar Wilde-

 

Lying is theft. When you tell me something which I take to be true and as a result I invest my time, or my money, or even my care, you have stolen these things from me because you obtained them with false information.

Lying creates inequality. Since you also do not like being lied to, I have never known anyone who wanted to be deceived, you have acted as if there were two classes of humans: you, with the right to lie, and everyone else, who must be truthful to you so that you too will not lose your way.

 

Lying treats people as means to the end you wish to accomplish, and not as ends in themselves.

 

In no way am I saying I have never lied. The times I have, it was the most uncomfortable feeling, my heart races, my mouth becomes so dry I can barely speak, I feel ashamed. The times I have felt this I was covering my tail. I was not lying to hurt, only to save my own butt. (Not that I feel that is acceptable in any way.) Honestly, I have not done that in years. I'm all about owning up to my mistakes. I think that comes with age and maturity, the consequences feel trivial next to hiding and worrying about covering up lie after lie.

 

Anger at lies lasts forever. Anger at truth can't last.

-Greg Evans-

 

Crabazz

After a very long shift Christmas night I waited, as always, for day shift to stroll in, 15 minutes to a half hour late.

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The phone rang.... On the other end I heard the blood curdling scream, the kind that goes straight to your bones. In the background I hear a male voice hollaring "You lying nasty bitch"...and something about going to work. A mousy, trembling voice says, "This is Lindsay, I'll call you right back."

 

Lindsay called back after she dropped her live-in boyfriend off at his work. Hysterically crying she said she couldn't make it to work, her lip was too fat and her head hurt because of the large knots on it. She took a beating from her boyfriend on the way to work.

 

What the hell???

 

I couldn't calm her down on the phone. I urged her to go to the police but of course, that wasn't an option. I told her to come by so I could at least see if she needed medical attention, which she agreed to.

Things like this consume me. I get angry, I feel scared, I feel very frustrated. We all know the statistics, we all have been touched in some way by abuse.

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Lindsay will probably lose her job she has drama like this often but keeps returning to the same place, the same man. I've met him. He's a little grease-ball punk, about 2 inches taller than me, and is as dumb as a box of rocks.

Inside, what I felt was mostly anger. Towards the grease ball, and even towards her as I know she'll go back. She has 3 children and finding a different place to live would be trying...and now she's another 12 hours short on her paycheck.

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I don't want to be involved, although I asked her several times if there was anything I could do for her, anything she needed but she declined. I gave her the lecture. "It only gets worse, you accept this behavior and it escalates."

I left Lindsay slumped over her steering wheel sobbing, and she thanked me.....for what??

I was angry.

 

I live my life so quietly. I work, I blog, I play scrabble....

I don't want to worry about Lindsay and her children,

but I am.

 

 

One package of chicken legs with Shake N Bake cooking at 425 degrees.

$3.26

One son passed out on the couch.

Free to good home. (ok any home) 

Returning from work after a 12 hour night shift to prevent your house from burning down..

 

PRICELESS

 

I'm gonna kill someone,

SOON.

 

Crabazz

This time of year I'm fortunate enough to have my name splattered all over all sorts of things.

Call it a little self-centered, but my Christmas decorations do take on a "JOY" theme...hey it's my right, my parents cursed we with a name that forces me to be pleasant...or I get "Boy, you sure don't live up to YOUR name!!"

 

All of the following pictures came up on photobucket when I typed in the search word "Joy."

 

 

OK that's just not right.

 

 

 

YUMMY

 

                                                      

NOT appropriate!!!!

 

Yeah I know....I shouldn't put my button out there, someone is bound to push it...more than once!

 

This is me, if I were a stick person.

 

 

My box. (Sorry)

 

I am I dish washing soap, so is Dawn.

 

I thought I had it bad...the other girl's name is pain.

 

Can you draw me a map, some directions, something..

 

I will be this Joy in my next lifetime. I'm not into chicks, but I like her.

 

 

 

 

Search your name, see what you find!!

 

Merry Christmas Everyone!!!!

 

 

Crabazz

Below,  parts of a news report that has been in the news nationally, including CNN. It has caused a national stir, and has gotten me Ticked OFF!!

 

Personally, I think there is something wrong with the "female employee" to view anything from a 4 year old as sexual contact/sexual harrassment.

Where is her mind??

Would a 4 year old even know?? Should this young boy be branded now, for his entire life as some sort of pervert for rubbing his face in the chest of a woman who clearly overreacted to the situation??

 

Couldn't she have used it as an opportunity to teach the child?

 

How about old people with dementia?? Should nursing staff scream sexual harrassment everytime Gramps gets a little frisky and pinches or rubs as a nurse walks by. SURE!! It is inappropriate, but taking into consideration the circumstances of dementia, or a young boy who has no concept of what is and isn't "sexual," national exposure to such a situation only feeds into the insanity of pointing fingers and overreacting to almost common-place events as children learn.

 

In finding this report thousands of hits came up on Google, children as young a 4 and 6 years old have been accused of simular things.

 

What is happening in the world??

 

Bellmead, TX - Damarcus Blackwell's four-year-old son was lining-up to get on the bus after school last month, when he was accused of rubbing his face in the chest of a female employee. The principal of La Vega Primary School sent a letter to the Blackwells that said the pre-kindergartener demonstrated "inappropriate physical behavior interpreted as sexual contact and/or sexual harassment."

Blackwell says it's ridiculous that the aide would misread a hug from a four-year-old. Blackwell wrote to administrators demanding that the whole incident be expunged from his son's academic file because his son is too young to know what it means to act sexually.

David Davis, the executive director of the Advocacy Center in Waco tends to agree with Blackwell. He says assuming the boy has not had sexual encounters, or been inappropriately exposed to pornography, most four-year-olds are sexually innocent.

Blackwell got a response from the La Vega administration. The sexual references on the discipline referral were removed. But the thing that makes Blackwell most upset is they told him "your request for an apology by the aide and removal of all paperwork regarding this incident is denied." Now the young student's file will refer to the incident as "inappropriate physical contact."

And Blackwell says he will continue to fight the district.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

 

Crabazz