After a very long shift Christmas night I waited, as always, for day shift to stroll in, 15 minutes to a half hour late.

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The phone rang.... On the other end I heard the blood curdling scream, the kind that goes straight to your bones. In the background I hear a male voice hollaring "You lying nasty bitch"...and something about going to work. A mousy, trembling voice says, "This is Lindsay, I'll call you right back."

 

Lindsay called back after she dropped her live-in boyfriend off at his work. Hysterically crying she said she couldn't make it to work, her lip was too fat and her head hurt because of the large knots on it. She took a beating from her boyfriend on the way to work.

 

What the hell???

 

I couldn't calm her down on the phone. I urged her to go to the police but of course, that wasn't an option. I told her to come by so I could at least see if she needed medical attention, which she agreed to.

Things like this consume me. I get angry, I feel scared, I feel very frustrated. We all know the statistics, we all have been touched in some way by abuse.

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Lindsay will probably lose her job she has drama like this often but keeps returning to the same place, the same man. I've met him. He's a little grease-ball punk, about 2 inches taller than me, and is as dumb as a box of rocks.

Inside, what I felt was mostly anger. Towards the grease ball, and even towards her as I know she'll go back. She has 3 children and finding a different place to live would be trying...and now she's another 12 hours short on her paycheck.

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I don't want to be involved, although I asked her several times if there was anything I could do for her, anything she needed but she declined. I gave her the lecture. "It only gets worse, you accept this behavior and it escalates."

I left Lindsay slumped over her steering wheel sobbing, and she thanked me.....for what??

I was angry.

 

I live my life so quietly. I work, I blog, I play scrabble....

I don't want to worry about Lindsay and her children,

but I am.

 

 

One package of chicken legs with Shake N Bake cooking at 425 degrees.

$3.26

One son passed out on the couch.

Free to good home. (ok any home) 

Returning from work after a 12 hour night shift to prevent your house from burning down..

 

PRICELESS

 

I'm gonna kill someone,

SOON.

 

Crabazz

This time of year I'm fortunate enough to have my name splattered all over all sorts of things.

Call it a little self-centered, but my Christmas decorations do take on a "JOY" theme...hey it's my right, my parents cursed we with a name that forces me to be pleasant...or I get "Boy, you sure don't live up to YOUR name!!"

 

All of the following pictures came up on photobucket when I typed in the search word "Joy."

 

 

OK that's just not right.

 

 

 

YUMMY

 

                                                      

NOT appropriate!!!!

 

Yeah I know....I shouldn't put my button out there, someone is bound to push it...more than once!

 

This is me, if I were a stick person.

 

 

My box. (Sorry)

 

I am I dish washing soap, so is Dawn.

 

I thought I had it bad...the other girl's name is pain.

 

Can you draw me a map, some directions, something..

 

I will be this Joy in my next lifetime. I'm not into chicks, but I like her.

 

 

 

 

Search your name, see what you find!!

 

Merry Christmas Everyone!!!!

 

 

Crabazz

Below,  parts of a news report that has been in the news nationally, including CNN. It has caused a national stir, and has gotten me Ticked OFF!!

 

Personally, I think there is something wrong with the "female employee" to view anything from a 4 year old as sexual contact/sexual harrassment.

Where is her mind??

Would a 4 year old even know?? Should this young boy be branded now, for his entire life as some sort of pervert for rubbing his face in the chest of a woman who clearly overreacted to the situation??

 

Couldn't she have used it as an opportunity to teach the child?

 

How about old people with dementia?? Should nursing staff scream sexual harrassment everytime Gramps gets a little frisky and pinches or rubs as a nurse walks by. SURE!! It is inappropriate, but taking into consideration the circumstances of dementia, or a young boy who has no concept of what is and isn't "sexual," national exposure to such a situation only feeds into the insanity of pointing fingers and overreacting to almost common-place events as children learn.

 

In finding this report thousands of hits came up on Google, children as young a 4 and 6 years old have been accused of simular things.

 

What is happening in the world??

 

Bellmead, TX - Damarcus Blackwell's four-year-old son was lining-up to get on the bus after school last month, when he was accused of rubbing his face in the chest of a female employee. The principal of La Vega Primary School sent a letter to the Blackwells that said the pre-kindergartener demonstrated "inappropriate physical behavior interpreted as sexual contact and/or sexual harassment."

Blackwell says it's ridiculous that the aide would misread a hug from a four-year-old. Blackwell wrote to administrators demanding that the whole incident be expunged from his son's academic file because his son is too young to know what it means to act sexually.

David Davis, the executive director of the Advocacy Center in Waco tends to agree with Blackwell. He says assuming the boy has not had sexual encounters, or been inappropriately exposed to pornography, most four-year-olds are sexually innocent.

Blackwell got a response from the La Vega administration. The sexual references on the discipline referral were removed. But the thing that makes Blackwell most upset is they told him "your request for an apology by the aide and removal of all paperwork regarding this incident is denied." Now the young student's file will refer to the incident as "inappropriate physical contact."

And Blackwell says he will continue to fight the district.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

 

Crabazz

Saturday night in my absence there were yet again words exchanged in the chat room.

I was not there to defend myself, nor was I there to fuel any fire that was burning out of control, I was in bed, sleeping.

 

Hook was there and Ed,(Blazing_Phoenix) proceeded to tell everyone that I had sent him some inappropriate pictures of myself and maybe I should have my skin condition checked out. It wasn't done in a joking manner, it was done to be malicious and disgusting..and it was.

 

My reply follows and you can also read it on:

 

http://blazingphoenix.blogstream.com/

Comment #7

 

UPDATE 12/5/06

This comment has been removed and I have been blocked from this blog from commenting .

blazing_phoenix has contacted me through PM and this matter is resolved, and I will never mention this subject again and Ed was big enough to apologize for his actions, I thank him for that.

Nurse

Ed,

Nice comment about me sending pictures to you. Lying is so nasty, I just can't even image what is going on in your head to just feel the need to lie for no reason. I've never done anything to you at all...ever. This goes beyond just anger, it's some sort of warped vendetta.

I hope you sleep well at night...personally I couldn't live with myself but I guess there are those who can. I feel sorry for you.

Post this, pass it around, do what you want with it, show your true colors. It's all good. Oh, and while you're at it...post those pictures.... I'd love to see them!!

 

Nurse

 

I was going to just Private Message this reply but as it goes, there has been manipulation of correspondence going on, I will put it out here so no one will be misinformed.

 

I hate that I have to post this.

 I hate that all this continues.

I will always be a target because I enjoy my time here.  I will continue to enjoy my time here even with these sort of displays.

I'm truly sorry that I had to say any of this.

And please....do not leave any comments as you will become the next target.

 

Nursey